I love when people try to spread rumors and claim to have information bc they are in the industry and in California, yet they consistently tweet at what would be either the middle of the night or very early in the morning in LA. Be a little smarter about your trolling.
Never mind, not him. Damn people who impersonate celebrities, lol.
Anonymous asked: Getting back to the exclusion of Lea by fans of Cory. What about his friends? They held a memorial in Canada and I don't think Lea was there or even invited. Also they celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving here, was she a part of that? I guess we really can't say about his friends here. I hope they are treating her well an I hope she is leaning on them for support too. Or maybe it's hard for her to.
We know nothing about the private communications between people we don’t know. I think it would also be hard on Lea — on anyone grieving — if she was needed in order for others to commemorate Cory. Gatherings in memorial often focus on the community involved, the type of relationship or activities, shared memories, and so on, and sometimes people do grieve better apart. A gathering of friends doesn’t need to involve family, especially when the group, the community, is potentially quite different. My aunt’s church didn’t need the family’s approval for how they chose to commemorate her, for example, and the feedback given was confined to our opinion on what she might have found appropriate. (We were also a little confused that they felt the need to ask, even though yes it was considerate, and we were dealing with a lot of other stuff at the time.)
That aside, from what they’ve put out on social media we do know that some of Cory’s friends in LA, like Kevin Zegers and Justin Wilczynski, are in touch with Lea. It’s reassuring to see those connections and know that she has that support, and I’m glad they let us know, but that shouldn’t make it something we need to know. I try to assume that if I don’t see a sign of the wrong thing, what is being done is the right thing, and given that we don’t know any of these people that seems like a suitable and less exhausting approach. They need to be able to be private to whatever extent they can (which is quite low given how much was already known or done-but-not-released) and wish to. Our default should be to not judge.
What I was talking about was more the exclusionary attitude of some so-called fans, that they’re the ones who can be public — all this stuff we’re posting is public even if not many are looking — but it’s wrong if she is. Insanity. Especially since art as an expression of grief has been common and highly celebrated for so long. Over the next few days I plan to post some examples, though not today because today is a special memorial day.
Catching up on this week’s happenings as I was so busy. Anyway, just read the two Qs you answered about Lea. First, not too long ago I figured out who the actual person is behind one of the Lea-hating blogs. Not going to say who or which blog as I don’t want to bring her any attention. But, in figuring it out I was reminded again of what an odd place the Internet really is. I believe this person just hates Lea and created this blog as a place to get positive attention from like minded people. It’s not actually about Cory or even about Lea. It’s about a sad person attempting to feel connected. As another Tumblr user pointed out to me, it’s best to ignore. There is certainly no reason to be upset about it. (Though I did need to be reminded of that because I found it upsetting at first)
Second, I think you make a great point when you say “we know nothing about the private communication between people we don’t know.” In fact, we could argue that we shouldn’t have even known about Cory’s friends’ memorial in the first place. I know they posted pics in public accounts, but I don’t think they were hoping/expecting those pics to be re-posted on Tumblr and then Re-blogged by thousands. Cory kept his life in Vancouver and those friends largely private along with his family. Cory once said that he felt he had lived many lives and it is possible that his friends/acquaintances from all those different lives weren’t fully connected at the end. Which is completely normal for any of us who have lived in multiple places. It’s like people forget that despite being celebrities they are actually also people. And also, just because you don’t see something happen on Twitter doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen in real life. I mean very few of Lea’s friends expressed public support to her but we know they are supporting her privately.
Finally regarding the people who are outraged that people would feel bad for Lea and not Ann - if you really believe that you need to grow up. Ann is not a person living a public life. As a result she doesn’t have fans or blogs dedicated to her. There is no real public way for her to be supported but that doesn’t mean people don’t feel for her or think of her in private - the same way we have sympathy and empathy for all people who lose a loved one. I would bet she’s actually somewhat thankful that Lea exists and that especially in those early weeks so much of the public attention was focused on Lea so she could grieve in private. If you are implying Ann doesn’t like Lea when there is not single shred of evidence to support it, it is only because YOU don’t like Lea.
2 Things RE: Lea:
1. I wish people (journalists) wrote nearly as much about all the nice things people say about her as they have about all the negative stuff over the years. I’m not one of those “Lea’s so perfect” people, because no one is perfect and I’d bet she can have a bit of an attitude from time to time (BTW many of my favorite people have an attitude - including my sister and best friend), but people do say genuinely nice and unprompted things about her all the time. It’d be nice if that were mentioned more often by the mainstream media.
2. Maybe I’m imagining, but I thought She looked like she was going to cry every time Cory was alluded to and clearly tried to divert to a different topic. I could have done without the “holidays suck when you’ve lost a loved one” question. Anyway, good for her for getting through. Can’t imagine how difficult and bittersweet it all must be.
I will always wonder if when Lea, Cory, Chris, Naya, etc. renegotiated their contracts they asked for more time off. It is the only reason I can think of to explain why their roles were so drastically minimized last year and continue to be this year.
I mean I’ve always liked Lea and Chris the best (not counting Cory) so that’s why I mostly get upset about them. But Naya’s role is even more limited. And her new “love story” is nonexistent.
It just makes no sense.
You have three actors who have achieved great success because people love them and their characters. The reviews I read continue to point out that they are just about the only bright spots left and yet they are in less than ten minutes of each episode. I don’t get it.
I can’t even really comment, but the thought of Marley or Ryder singing anything that once belonged to Finn makes me want to cry.